One of the toughest and rigorous job that is to be accomplished is educating and bringing up of the children and guide them towards proper path. Most Parents adopt various methods to establish their children into the righteous path, achieve the success and pave the way for living. Apart from showing affection, some of them deal rudely with the children, scold or beat them in some cases. This can have a serious effect upon the mental health of the children. Let us talk about the side effects of the negative parenting and its aftermath.
There are several instance of bad parenting that forge a long lasting consequence upon the actions of the children or the path besieged. Most parents would decry the positive attitude towards their children and use their own blueprint of upbringing which cannot be compatible with evolution of society and time. Bad parenting can have adverse effects towards the psychology of the children, here we know why such happens.
- Reprimanding or absconding the child excessively
Scolding or daunting the child excessively for their mistakes can have adverse effects upon their mind. In the future, they may mind confessing the truth difficult hence most facts will remain unknown form the parents.
- Disciplining the child in public
It can be a savagery act to discipline or teach the children in front of public. It injects hatred in their mind and perceives a sense of humiliation among the people. If you hit your children in front of others, it might shatter the confidence and feeling of the children to a large extent.
- All advice, no encouragement or assistance
Parents tend to give instructions or advice their children on doing certain things. Not all child are obedient to follow them accordingly. Imposing certain things upon them even backfires. It is necessary to encourage them for right activities, refrain from doing wrong and knot them in the proper resource.
- Withholding affection
Parents often find themselves busy and do not tend to show affection, give hugs or say ‘I love you’ and ‘I am proud of you’. Such actions will lead the children emotionally disconnected to you.
- Not setting rules
Children need proper environment to enhance their mental capabilities. Most parents do not willingly provide them with certain ones and limit their boundaries, put obstruction towards their dream. The children cannot even nourish their opportunities due to their egoistic parents.
- Lack of support
Parents do not often support their children. Suppose, a son won the first prize in sports or a daughter secured the same in singing competition. Yet, they don’t find a moment with their parents to cheer the moment.
- Comparing your child
This is one of the actions that can have severe implications upon child psychology. Children are compared to others achievements, proving them inferior and discouraging them to follow passion or dreams, emulating them of positive traits. They grow up realizing life is a competition and winning becomes an option either by hook or crook.
- Not respecting his/her feelings
Most parents have a dilemma of superiority complex not respecting the feelings or ambitions of children. In the future you might want to know where this particular behavior or trait he/she received from
In order to avoid such side effects, you can a child psychologist to discuss the matter with
Jaidul Karim Iram
YSSE Content Writing Intern (2020-2021)